Situation Monday

You and your significant other have been in a relationship for just over 2 years.  Things have been great.  Thinking back to the day when you first met in the sandwich shop during lunch.  You both wanted extra sauce on your sandwiches and it has been lovely every since.

…Or so you thought.  You’ve recently been seeing an uneasiness in your significant other in going out in public in certain parts of the city that you’ve always gone to, and for some reason, email and phones have become a much more private matter.  You are truly wondering what is going on and what has happened.

So you decide to bring your concerns up to your significant other.  They fess up and tell you they want to tell you something but wants to discuss it over dinner that evening.  You meet at a restaurant you’ve never been to and sit down.  Soon thereafter, someone else joins you at the table.  You are utterly shocked and dismayed.  “Who the hell are you?” is the first thing that comes to mind.

The response….”We’re a couple and you are impeding on our future.”  Suddenly it dawns on you that you are the victim of a cheating no good spouse.  Even worse, the infidelity is with someone of the same sex!!! Oddly enough, they don’t see it as cheating because they were involved prior to your appearance.

NOW…..What do you do?  How would you react?  (Awaiting your comments…..)

I must warn you now this is going to sound harsh.  I feel bad for people whose mates have “let themselves go”.  Its saddening to see a person who takes care of themselves chained down to a blob.

As people age they gain weight.  Things don’t have to be this way.  Since it occurs with so many people it has become a “fact of life”.

The evolution from attractive to blob status usually follows this timeline:

• Man/woman takes care of himself/herself while single.  Single people know that they are competing.
• Man/woman gradually loses site of fitness or health goals as a relationship progresses.  Complacency begins to set in.
• Man/woman loses all interest in physical upkeep and fitness several years into the marriage.  After this occurs the body starts to look less and less attractive.

In all honesty it isn’t fair for a mate to be placed in this situation.  The mate has to deal with a loss of attraction while trying not to come off like a jerk.

Certain people deal with this issue by having a weight requirement of their potential mate.  This technique is brazen and cold (yet effective).  Even if you don’t like the technique you have to admit one thing…being upfront about weight issues is the best way to address them.

With regards to weight requirements how do you feel?  Is it the right thing to do?  Is it insensitive?  Let us know.

I wise man once told me this:

it doesn’t take all day to do nothin

Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on where you stand) this logic can be applied to the horizontal boogie. Many musical acts have made a living by simply professing to having sex all night long.  Lets be honest…nobody is having sex for 8 hours.  As a matter of fact if you are I have a suggestion for you…see a doctor!

Young men who are just starting their sexual journey routinely last about 30 seconds so lets toss them out of the equation.  I’ve heard of record lows in the 3 minute, 4 minute, and 5 minute times amongst men who have matured into manhood.  To men its a joke, women rarely ever get the humor.  We can all agree that no one wants to have sex all night, but that isn’t the debate.

We want to know your opinion on the opposite, how short is too quick when it  comes to sex?

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I remember the first time I was faced with the after sex cuddle dilemma.  After a great night of incredible sex something ridiculous happened…the lady asked me to cuddle. I instinctively recoiled in confusion.   The person extending their arms was covered in sweat and sex juices.  Did she really expect me to cuddle?

After 30 minutes of bending, lifting, and thrusting I was done.  Heat surged through my body.  I was in a mood to relax.  The last thing (and I do mean the last thing) I wanted to do was lay down and envelop myself in someone else’s body heat and sweat.  After about 30 seconds of pouting I caved in and an unnecessary exchange of body heat and sweat ensued.

Since then, I’ve become a little less resistant to cuddling but I still don’t see the purpose.  Maybe the Survey Magnet readership can help me out.

Come down to the comments section and give me your $.02.

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Relationship compatibility has many layers.  In a relationship it is important that you are:

• Physically attracted to the person
• Able to carry a conversation with that person
• Compatible with each others’ friends and family
• Financially compatible
• On the same wavelength in terms of money

In most relationships saying no to one of the above bullets is enough to flush the relationship down the toilet.

Now lets add religion to the mix.  Think about all the religions out there in the world.  Now think about all the people in the world who have different religions.

Is it possible for people to have healthy romantic relationships when they practice different religious patterns?

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A typical day in the life of your favorite Survey Magnet captain goes a little something like this:

• 5:45 AM – 6:00 AM – Get ready for and travel to the gym.
• 6:00 AM -  8:00 AM - Workout, shower, and leave gym.
• 8:00 AM – 8:00 PM -  Perform my daily work activities (salaried and Survey Magnet duties).
• 8:00 PM – 10:00 PM – Read, play video games, or entertain myself in another form.
• 10:00 PM – 12:00 AM – Relationship time with the love of my life.

Its hard to fine time to breathe, let alone sweep the lady off her feet with romantic gestures.  It has placed a little stress on the relationship, but we’re smart enough to not let it turn into Chernobyl.  She knows I love her and I know she loves me.  Shouldn’t that be enough?

Scroll down to the comment section and tell us what you think.

I would assume that almost every relationship began with a date somewhere in the beginning stages.  Women love to look their best when they are out.  So there would be no need for her to half step when she goes out with her potential future husband and possible father for her kids.

Are all women looking to impress on the first date?  Does a woman look to merely accentuate her better traits, or is she trying to entice the man as best she can for what he is NOT going to get?

Regardless of the end results, what would be the sexiest thing for her to do?

My Assumptions

• People love money
• People like receiving gifts
• People have bills

My Questions

• Should an involved woman accept money from another man?
• Should you allow someone else to pay your bills?
• What are the repercussions of allowing another man to pay your bills?
• What type of men would you accept a “gift” from?

Tell us what you think…

Traditionally, the man/dad/husband controlled the household operations.  Mainly because he was the bread winner.  He made the money that supported the family and was responsible for the clothes on everyone’s backs and the food that calmed their hunger.

Well, it’s 2009 and the man is no longer the soul provider and sometimes is not the bread winner.  Women make tremendous contributions to the family and in many cases, their income is necessary to the living situation.

With powerful women like :

1. Indra Nooyi – PepsiCo
2. Irene Rosenfield – Kraft Foods
3. Andrea Jung – Avon Products
4. Oprah Winfrey – Harpo
5. Carol Bartz – Yahoo

You have to wonder, do they really rake in all the dough so their hubbies can tell them how to spend it?

It’s a lady’s first date with the guy who admired her at the gym last week.  He has offered to take her out this Friday.  She’s hoping, wishing, praying that this particular gentleman will work out much better than the last five.

Chivalry can be described as courtesy, generosity, and valor.  With that being said, what should a she expect from this gentleman?

• Should his courtesy involve opening doors, holding hands, or adjusting chairs.
• Should his generosity include cash gifts or giving away close personal items to on lookers while with her.
• Should his valor include protecting her from any harm should harm arise.

We’re unsure so we want to know what you think…