Unless you live in a bubble childhood fights are unavoidable. Children don’t have the emotional control to take rejection, punishment, mockery, and other childhood trauma without resorting to violence.
Most people teach their children not to start fights. This is reasonable advice as it keeps the child from becoming an absolute tyrant. A surprising number of people instruct their child to avoid fighting altogether (even when they are attacked). This seems like a surefire way to turn your child into a punching bag.
When I was a child I was told to bring the pain if someone started a fight with me. I was successful most of the time (can’t win ‘em all 
), but I’m going to teach my child the same thing.
Do you agree or disagree with my stance? Let us know how you feel in the comments section.
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I wouldn’t teach my child to fight, but I would teach him to defend himself.
Amen…Send’em in with a Glock.
I agree with Derrick. Fighting is not the answer, but a child must know how to defend him/herself. Children are devious and will provoke other children. Case in point: I have a student in my 4th grade class that never gets in trouble, makes good grades and pretty much doesn’t bother anyone. He has a brother in the 3rd grade that fits this same criteria. There is a boy in the classroom next to mine that always gets in trouble and is much bigger than the boy in my room and his brother. The boy next door decided to start some drama afterschool during late pickup. He talked about his mama, his family, and then slapped my student, twice. The boy in my room along with his brother in turn beat the hell out of the boy next door….Mr. Bad Ass. As my assistant principal says “It was the best fight he had seen since he left the middle school setting”. I said all of that to say this… You let them know what you expect of them and they will work towards it. You teach your children right from wrong (yes, Billy it is wrong to fight, but……), but you don’t teach them to be stupid…Children won’t fight unless they are provoked and in this case, my student was provoked. This child doesn’t have a male influence in his life so the mama must be doing what she needs to do to raise her kids and that’s teaching them how to be men.
My child will bring the pain. End of story.
He will need those MMA skills to fend off the others kids that pick at him for not getting any Xmas gifts.
In fist fights defense is not enough, my kid will pummel anyone that throws the first punch. But I will also teach my kid the use of verbal defense, I can’t tell you how many hot-head idiots I have calmed down instead of breaking faces.
Now since I’m grown, I shooting to kill…I mean deter.