Comments on: A Friend’s Friendly spouse

By: Latoya

Latoya — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 21:31:20 +0000

@Derrick: I’m looking at this from a female point of view and from people that I know who have been in these situations. I have known females that have turned on their “bestest” of friends about their man…all because they don’t want to hear what you have to say about him….”Oh, you are just jealous….maybe you want my man”. Maybe if the action is not reciprocated, the cheating partner will leave you alone, and maybe not. There is a lot of risk involved here and it just depends on how you think your friend will react. For most, the honest friend ends up with the hurt feelings until the faithful spouse gets cheated on by the cheating spouse.

By: Derrick

Derrick — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 18:44:17 +0000

@Latoya: As unorthodox as this situation is... This situation is likely to arise again. This was not a stranger and you met in a friend-of-a-friend environment, which means the likelihood of you seeing these people again is almost guaranteed. So would you really play keep quiet knowing you could see this person next week or next month?

By: Latoya

Latoya — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 02:23:14 +0000

I wouldn’t accept the advance, but who is to say that the friend would believe you? Friends will turn on you when it comes to their mates….we don’t want to believe anything negative about our mates…and will make the situation out to be your fault. I would just keep quiet about it and stay away from the friend’s mate.

By: Shae

Shae — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:22:56 +0000

@Derrick: I agree if you don't want it told don't do it. It's just wrong because what you don't know do eventually hurt you. I should know.

By: Derrick

Derrick — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 18:39:32 +0000

There are two “Yes/Yes” options. Can’t trust anybody!!

By: Marcus

Marcus — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 18:17:44 +0000

The person who clicked Yes/Yes is a foul son of a gun.

By: Kandi

Kandi — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:18:40 +0000

The best kept secrets are the ones left untold.

By: Marcus

Marcus — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 12:40:04 +0000

I am a beacon of light for all that is right and true in the world. Therefore I wouldn’t accept and I would snitch.

By: BigAl

BigAl — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 11:17:00 +0000

Seeing as this has happened to me (I had the GF wasn’t a wife) and being a heavy drinker too, I know alcohol brings out the worst sort of truth in all, but if something does go down I don’t want it kept from me while everybody else knows. And everybody else will know, news gets around.

By: Derrick

Derrick — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 11:04:18 +0000

“Don’t do it if you don’t want it told.”